Random question without notice: Have you ever had a negative experience in relation to your ‘learning’ that has damaged your confidence? In other words, has anyone ever said something to you like ‘no, you’re wrong’ (even though you knew you were right), ‘you’re an idiot’, ‘you’re stupid’, ‘you’ll never amount to anything’, or ‘you’re never going to achieve anything in your life’? Has anything like this ever happened?
The reason this question is very important is because attacks like this on young people have been shown to have a profoundly negative and long-lasting impact that in some cases can even last for the person’s entire life! Whilst some of us may think ‘come on, they were probably just teasing!’ or ‘why would you take it so seriously?’ comments like this can shatter self-belief and can significantly impact the way a person views themselves – particularly when delivered at a young age. The major problem with this is that a person’s self-confidence is directly related to the attitude they apply to their education (and their ‘learning’ in general). So when a negative comment is directed to a young person about their ability to learn and understand things, it can still be affecting the attitude they have about their schooling in high school, college and their adult life.
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Where’s Your Esteem?
The esteem that you hold yourself in is a direct reflection of your feelings of ability and worth. This is very important in your studies because it impacts your confidence and your willingness to be open to learning and trying new things. Research shows there is a very strong link between students with high self-esteem and high achievement level. As expected, the opposite is also true, low self-esteem tends to result in a low achievement level. Can these trends be bucked? Yes of course they can – but it’s not the norm.
Time To Make A Change!
The point of this article is to build you up and help you realize you are awesome. We want you to become the best you that you can possibly be. So let’s look at some things you can do every day that will make your confidence soar.
1. Let’s get positive, positive, I want to get positive, let’s get into positive (think theme song from ‘Let’s Get Physical’). Just be positive – about every single thing! Especially yourself. Talk yourself up. What’s the point in being negative anyway – what does it solve? Does it make anything better? Or does it make it much worse? Try being positive about every single thing for one whole week. That’s right – a week. You can do it. Try it. See what happens. Then do two weeks, three weeks and more. What do you think will happen? There is no doubt that if you do this and stick to it, your attitude will change dramatically. Make it happen.
2. Think of all the things you are good at and all the success you have created. If you’re not sure ask your parents or your friends. Write these things down and keep adding to the list as you think of anything. Read the list every morning when you wake up. Do this for one week. Don’t be weird about it, just write things that make you feel good and you know are true. Don’t allow yourself to pretend that there is nothing good (some of you will try this old trick!)
3. Stop comparing yourself with other students. You have no idea what other people’s lives are really like because you don’t live their life. Things are never what they seem. So what are you comparing yourself to anyway? The only comparison worth making is that of comparing yourself today with yourself yesterday. Are you better today than you were yesterday? If so, how? Always strive to improve yourself each day and you will make huge gains over the course of a week, a month and a year.
4. Help others. That’s right others. No, not yourself. Others! You will really feel good about yourself when you do, but that’s not really the point. The point is that if you want to create a great sense of worth in your life, see what a difference you can make to other people’s lives. Lend a hand. Help your mother with the dishes. Help your little sibling with their homework. Do one thing for someone else every day. See what happens. Also, only associate with people who like, respect, and support you for who you are. Try to avoid people who are always looking to find fault with you. Why would you want to spend time with negative people – they’ll only drag you down and they aren’t worth your time.
To read the full article please follow the links below. Good luck with your studies!
How To Stop Negative Thoughts And Boost Your Confidence
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